DearAdviceGuy,
I seem to always pick the wrong men. I was married for a long time to a man who lied and cheated on me. I keep getting involved with men who have addictions, cheat and lie to me. I am a good person. Is my man picker off? I have given up on love because I am sick of being in bad relationships. I need someone who can pick someone for me, but how would that work? Are there any good men left or what do I look for in a man?
Hurt Girl
Dear Hurt,
Poor thing. Want me to kick his ass? No? Okay, maybe. But that won't get you the love you want, right? Let's start with this: There are a lot of great guys out there. You're just not finding them, or they're not finding you. Stop blaming yourself. It's the GUYS, not you. People blame themselves for so much shit caused by others. Knock that off, will ya? Now, try on some new guy glasses. Put 'em on and take a look. What did you see in these losers? Maybe you want love so much, that you dive in too fast before you really know the guy you're now deeply involved in. Bad. Everyone gets stepped on, Hurt, it's just feels like it's happening more to you. So get picky. Make a guy make an effort. The real gents ARE gents. Don't give it up so quickly. And get busy. Some of the best relationships start later in life, when a woman finally figures out it's better to know his head before giving him head. Not saying you do that, but make sure you really know a guy before you REALLY get involved. Be good to that good person heart. Goooo Slooooow. Then wait a little more, and you'll know MORE. He's out there. Forget about YOUR picker. Let the guy pick YOU, for you. -- DearAdviceGuy
I seem to always pick the wrong men. I was married for a long time to a man who lied and cheated on me. I keep getting involved with men who have addictions, cheat and lie to me. I am a good person. Is my man picker off? I have given up on love because I am sick of being in bad relationships. I need someone who can pick someone for me, but how would that work? Are there any good men left or what do I look for in a man?
Hurt Girl
Dear Hurt,
Poor thing. Want me to kick his ass? No? Okay, maybe. But that won't get you the love you want, right? Let's start with this: There are a lot of great guys out there. You're just not finding them, or they're not finding you. Stop blaming yourself. It's the GUYS, not you. People blame themselves for so much shit caused by others. Knock that off, will ya? Now, try on some new guy glasses. Put 'em on and take a look. What did you see in these losers? Maybe you want love so much, that you dive in too fast before you really know the guy you're now deeply involved in. Bad. Everyone gets stepped on, Hurt, it's just feels like it's happening more to you. So get picky. Make a guy make an effort. The real gents ARE gents. Don't give it up so quickly. And get busy. Some of the best relationships start later in life, when a woman finally figures out it's better to know his head before giving him head. Not saying you do that, but make sure you really know a guy before you REALLY get involved. Be good to that good person heart. Goooo Slooooow. Then wait a little more, and you'll know MORE. He's out there. Forget about YOUR picker. Let the guy pick YOU, for you. -- DearAdviceGuy
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