DearAdviceGuy,
"Rick" and I have been together almost five years. Whenever I bring up the subject of marriage, he avoids it, or says things like "Why ruin a good thing?" He also has many female friends. Lately, he has been very deceptive with certain calls. Other times he will talk openly to a woman in front of me, then just pass it off as nothing. I'm starting to feel like it's time to move on, but I love him and know he cares about me. He does many good things and has a good job. I want a future together. Is there hope?
Lost in Love
"Rick" and I have been together almost five years. Whenever I bring up the subject of marriage, he avoids it, or says things like "Why ruin a good thing?" He also has many female friends. Lately, he has been very deceptive with certain calls. Other times he will talk openly to a woman in front of me, then just pass it off as nothing. I'm starting to feel like it's time to move on, but I love him and know he cares about me. He does many good things and has a good job. I want a future together. Is there hope?
Lost in Love
Dear "Lost",
Hate to break it to you, but if the guy you've been with for five years is balking at marriage and talking to women as if you're not even there, then it's time for you to look at your relationship the way it is, and not how you WISH it to be. He is telling you exactly how he feels. As hard as it is, you need to listen.
I don't know your guy, but it sounds like he has exactly the relationship he wants with you and has no intention of changing it. You have a decision to make. Stay with him and accept it, or say goodbye and look for a new relationship with a man who values marriage as much and as deeply as you do.
A guy in love who wants to get married, marries the woman he loves. And he doesn't beat around the bush for five years in a quandry. Your guy is making it clear, through his actions, that he has no intention of proposing and is not ready to change. He may love you, but he doesn't want to marry you. If you want a man who loves you enough and respects you enough to commit to marriage, the sooner you move on the better. Sorry, but he's not the one. You know it, your friends know it and he knows it. Time to moveon.org. -- DearAdviceGuy
Hate to break it to you, but if the guy you've been with for five years is balking at marriage and talking to women as if you're not even there, then it's time for you to look at your relationship the way it is, and not how you WISH it to be. He is telling you exactly how he feels. As hard as it is, you need to listen.
I don't know your guy, but it sounds like he has exactly the relationship he wants with you and has no intention of changing it. You have a decision to make. Stay with him and accept it, or say goodbye and look for a new relationship with a man who values marriage as much and as deeply as you do.
A guy in love who wants to get married, marries the woman he loves. And he doesn't beat around the bush for five years in a quandry. Your guy is making it clear, through his actions, that he has no intention of proposing and is not ready to change. He may love you, but he doesn't want to marry you. If you want a man who loves you enough and respects you enough to commit to marriage, the sooner you move on the better. Sorry, but he's not the one. You know it, your friends know it and he knows it. Time to moveon.org. -- DearAdviceGuy
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